As I pastor I have learned to confront people. To be honest I hate doing it. When you truly care about people it rips your guts to bring correction. So I thought I would share some thoughts about confrontation/correction.
1. Be Biblical.
In our watered-down, scripture devalued society make sure that you are biblical in your confrontation. Use the Bible as your rule of thumb and guide. It is a roadmap.
2. Be Direct.
Don’t beat around the bush. Be honest and clear about the correction you are bringing. Stay focused and aware of their desparate need for accountability.
3. Be Willing to sacrifice your friendship for your friend.
Too many do not truly care about their friend so they never confront. Real friends care enough to confront. I would rather lose a friendship than a friend. And when you are honest with a friend who is in error/sin you risk losing them as a friend.
4. Always seek to restore.
It is our mission to bring those in sin back into a right relationship with God. Blatent sin choices still require us to hold to restoration. Unless they are unwilling.
5. Don’t affirm their sin choices.
Never say “It’s okay” when it’s not okay. “I understand” is a phrase that can be misused by the person being confronted as affirmation.
I have had to confront and correct many people through the years. In fact, I have been corrected and confronted many times. Only loving people will confront and correct! I love therefore I correct!
Galatians 6:1: “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.”
I Timothy 5:20: “Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.”
Confrontation is tough, but necessary. I pray that I will confront and others will care enough to confront me when I need it most!